Paar
Notice each other’s care — every day
A cozy place for two: short notes about what your partner did for you, each other’s boundaries and rewards for care
Free · no ads
Not a social network or a tracker. Just a place where care becomes visible.
One feed for two
You both see notes and agreements. Nothing gets lost in chats or forgotten by evening.
Boundaries, written down
A “what hurts me” screen: your partner knows in advance where not to tread, instead of guessing after a fight.
Care you can feel
Hearts for real little things. Swap them for a date, a phone-free day or a slow evening.
Monthly cards
Once a month the two of you draw hidden cards: small things you’ll want to say thanks for later.
How well do you know each other
Once a week — a quick question about your partner. Hearts for the right answer.
Quiet and private
No public feed, no ratings, no ads. Only the two of you see your notes.
How it works
- 01
Notice the care
Your partner did the dishes, waited, didn’t interrupt. A note takes 15 seconds
- 02
Write it down
It lands in your shared feed with a date and a few words on why it mattered
- 03
Say thanks
A heart back, a reward, or simply “thank you” out loud
Shared feed
The day’s care — with a date and a few words on why it mattered.
Hearts and rewards
Save them up and swap them for a date or a slow evening together.
Questions
Do we both need to install the app?+
Yes. Paar is made for two: you both install it and pair up. You can start on your own, but the point is that care is seen from both sides.
How much does it cost?+
Paar is free. No subscriptions, ads or hidden payments.
Who can see our notes?+
Only your partner. We show no ads, never sell your data and don’t share it with third parties.
Can we leave the couple?+
Yes, anytime. You get a week to change your mind. Your boundaries and survey stay with you, and you can delete your profile with all its data in one tap.
Is there an iPhone version?+
For now it’s Android only. An iPhone version will come later.
How much time does it take?+
A couple of minutes a day. No goals, no streaks — if you go quiet for a week, nothing is lost.